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Relationships can be hard

Sharing a life with someone you love is beautiful, but it can also be deeply challenging. Intimate partnerships often carry the weight and baggage of our past experiences and wounding. Because our intimate partnerships are the closest we ever get with other people, they are often the place where we project our childhood traumas. Because of this, most couples eventually reach a point where the love they once had is clouded and obscured by pain and hurt. Many couples reach points in their relationships where they could use outside help to sort through the pain, hurt, projections, and confusion. It can feel difficult to navigate the painful dynamics that can arise in romantic relationships without a neutral, compassionate, and effective couples therapist.

Many of the couples that come to couple therapy are struggling with these common pain points:
- Ongoing communication breakdowns

• Adjusting to parenthood and the changes that come with raising children

• Decreased intimacy or sex

• Betrayal, affairs, or emotional infidelity

• The impact of childhood relational trauma on current patterns

• Deciding whether or not to have children

• Frequent conflict or disagreements that never seem to resolve

• Different parenting styles 

• Life transitions (moving, job changes, retirement, illness, loss)

• Blended family challenges (step-parenting, co-parenting)

• Feeling more like roommates than partners

Why we struggle in relationships

The way we feel and act in relationship with others often reflects how we learned to relate it our early lives. Its common to get stuck in thought and behavior patterns that are influenced or developed out of childhood family dynamics or early relationships. When these patterns arise, it can be an opportunity to learn and heal past relational wounds with your current partner. By looking at our early relationships and how they shape the way we feel about ourselves and others, you have the opportunity to re-wire past patterns and develop new ways of being in our relationships and lives. We rarely intentionally are trying to hurt our partner, but when we don’t have the tools or energy to devote to tending to ourselves, our partner is often at the receiving end of our unprocessed emotions.

Couples therapy can help you heal

Therapy gives you a safe and supportive space to talk with your partner and be truly heard. In couples therapy we will work to deeply observe and understand your current communication and relational patterns, explore the deeper dynamics that are driving the conflict, and support you with tools, strategies and insights to come up with new ways of relating and communicating. Ultimately, our goal is to help you build intimacy, connection, and collaboration in your partnership.

Talking with a compassionate and skilled couples therapist can help you 

• Understand yourself and your partner on a deeper level

• Break cycles of conflict and miscommunication

• Heal from past hurts and rebuild trust

• Rekindle intimacy and closeness

• Strengthen your ability to face life’s challenges together.

Couples therapy is not about pointing fingers and assigning blame, it's about creating space to explore constructive, creative, and inspiring ways to move forward in your relationship. You don’t have to stay stuck in the same old patterns. With the right support, healing and growth are possible.

Couples therapy for parents

Welcoming a new child brings joy, and also completely reshapes the landscape of your relationship and family system. The changes that come with a new baby can sometimes feel overwhelming, disorienting, and even shocking. Adjusting to these changes can bring unique challenges and pain points and is a common time for couples to reach the point where they need outside help.

Many new parents struggle with: 

• Feeling disconnected from your partner, or “not the same” as before

• Struggling with exhaustion, stress, and reduced emotional bandwidth

• Navigating changing family roles and expectations

• Changes in intimacy, sex, and quality time together

• Feelings of isolation, misunderstanding, and distance

Working with a therapist who understands these dynamics firsthand can make all the difference. Parenthood changes everything and it can feel unsettling for both parents when the relationship no longer feels the way it once did. Talking with someone who understands how that feels, and can help you navigate the hardest moments with more grace and awareness can be tremendously helpful. Even just having someone normalize your experience can be life-changing.

A solid and loving relationship is not only good for you, it's profoundly beneficial for your child’s development. Therapy gives you a safe space to talk openly about the ways you’ve changed since becoming parents, and to imagine how you want to develop your relationship and family moving forward. Your new family deserves the solid foundation of a loving partnership, and you and your partner deserve to feel as nurtured, loved, and admired as your baby does!

My goal is helping parents communicate their needs and desires in this new phase of your relationship, and to support families in creating a loving and nurturing environment for their children to grow up in. I feel very passionate about preparing parents and families to create a loving and whole environment for their children to be raised so that our next generation can feel supported and thrive. 

Reach out today 

If you are interested in exploring couples therapy or if you have any questions about how the process goes, reach out to me today. I offer free, confidential, no obligation phone consultations where we can explore a bit about your current situation and decide together whether it makes sense for us to try working together.